Self-esteem

"I am the X of F", she said. F, being one of my friends.

So, here goes the story:

I met the x of one of my friends in the convenient store near my house, the other day. I, barely, recognized the person, because we never really spoke. My friend never really made the proper introductions. Perhaps, it was not important for us to know each other. Yet, when faces meet, eyes are like "I know you from somewhere"...

I am not good at remembering names but I am good at registering faces. I am good with pictures, yet they have to impact on me for me to save them. That is, a face has to be special! By special, I mean, I can see the person's soul out of it. So, if I don't remeber your face, I am sorry, but that is most probably because there has been no cerebral communication between us. It does not have to be a verbal communication. Sometimes eyes talk better than tongues. Sometimes silence says about one more than voice would.

The friend I am talking about, actually, is good at communicating with eyes. My friend is also great in silence. I could sometimes listen to his silent words and find kindness in them more than in his spoken expressions.

So, back to the main topic. When I saw that person, I didnot remember her face but I remembered a common expression that somehow is imprinted on her face: WORRY!
I don't know if it is just me, but this person seems always worried. I think, I was about to ask "Are you ok?" when it hit me!!!! Oh! I've seen this face before!

The funny part was, as she spoke, I could finally tell why she always had and most probably why she'd always have that weird lost face! ...

I say funny, because that is my only humble way to be sorry for someone!



And by the way, I am gaijin.in.nihon.
Nice to meet you.




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What I meant is the following:

I find it desolating to refer to one's self via someone else's. We usually like to refer to someone we are proud of or who is proud of us...

Saying "I am x" is not like saying "I am x the friend of Y", or like "I am x the daughter/son of W" or like "I am the x of Y".

The way we refer to ourselves, tells a lot about us, more than that we would say, sometimes...

So, ...my humble advice to my humble readers :) ::

Watch out the next time you introduce yourself to someone you know or don't know. The impact of a first introduction might last forever.
As like any introduction, actually, in the books, in papers or in our school essays, etc. people might forget what one would have said but not the impact of a first encounter with what one has just said.